Friday, March 20, 2026

death valley national park

 


While Liam spent spring break in Duck with his friends (funny enough, they rented the same house we rented for Thanksgiving 2024), the rest of us decided to head to the desert. Funny backstory: Initially, Henry was a hard no on going with us. It's hard to blame him for not wanting that much undiluted parent time. But then one day I was telling Max about the trip, and he immediately wanted to come, so we switched our dates around to coincide with his spring break, then went back to Henry and asked if he wanted to miss a few days of school to come with us after all ... and wouldn't you know it, that resulted in a yes.

After a very early morning flight, we arrived in Las Vegas before noon, picked up our rental car, and hit the road, with a stop at Walmart to buy a cooler and food. We were on the lookout for wildflowers, and although the heat had burned off the height of the bloom, we were still treated to an amazing superbloom. At the lower elevations, we saw yellow, white, and purple flowers, and then higher up we were treated to lovely bright oranges. Each day we went to different locations and scouted for flowers along the way. The most amazing display, in my opinion, came on the day that we drove to Ubehebe Crater. On the way there, we saw a hillside entirely covered in bright yellow flowers, and amazingly, there was nobody else even around. Nobody else felt like getting out of the car, so I stood there just taking it in by myself for a while. Truly incredible experience.








But of course, we weren't just there for the flowers. (Lie: We were totally there for the flowers.) We also did other things we loved! Mike and the boys did a long, hot, challenging hike while I rented a bike and went for a very hot, very windy ride. We got up and saw the sunrise every day. Mike and I went out at night to see the stars (So. Many. Stars!). We even drove to the furthest reaches of the park because I saw a place on the map noted as a Joshua tree forest. 








Max and Henry's favorite thing by far (like by a million miles) was going for their first horseback ride. They went at sunset and had an absolute blast, and then spent the rest of the trip arguing whether Moonshine or Mojave was the superior horse. (Brothers gonna brother, am I right?)




Naturally, it wouldn't be a Fort vacation without some kind of infestation. This time around, it was INCHWORMS. Turns out that the conditions that make it so favorable for a superbloom ALSO are favorable to inchworms. Friends, they were dropping from the trees onto our clothes and skin. They were crawling up the drainpipes into the bathtub. They slithered in massive numbers under every door crack and through every crevice. Everyone in the whole hallway had towels shoved under their doors to block them, and every morning when we ventured out of our room, the hall floor was a real horror show. But hey, at least they didn't bite us! 











Monday, February 09, 2026

max is 20!


 Just like that, we've got one teenager and two twenty-somethings!

Max has had a big year. He finished up his freshman year at Purdue, got himself a new major (applied statistics and actuarial science!), spent most of his summer in Detroit doing an internship for Chris, and is now three-quarters of the way through his sophomore year. He's got so much to be proud of, and even more to look forward to.



One thing I adore about Max is the way he shows up for the people he loves. Whether he's cheering Henry on at a race, offering Liam the best possible listening ear (and good advice!), or coming home for the weekend to spend time with Cassidy when she is under the weather, Max is someone to be counted on. He's not flashy or obvious, but he's a solid, steady presence with an innate kindness. He's also hilarious and can and will cut you right down to size with a single sentence, lest you think he's all sweetness and light.

No, our Max is a lot more than that. He loves watching and playing tennis, as well as playing video games on his phone while having long, rambling conversations with Henry. He's the first one in a restaurant to order a dessert the minute he thinks he can get away with it. But he's also the first one to share.


And he's always up for an adventure! I think that of them all, Max is the most like me in that department  he's ready to go to new places and try new things. One of his favorite things to do when we travel (and he does NOT get this from me!) is find the hardest/most dangerous/most gasp-inducing hike and convince Mike to do it with him. Liam and Henry have gone along with varying levels of enthusiasm, but Max has been the true impetus for each one, challenging his dad and brothers to keep up with and making it look easy along the way.

In the car last weekend, as a side note to another conversation we were having, I said something about no longer being the person who knows Max best now that he's making his adult way in the world. But I sure know enough, and I could not be prouder or more excited to find out what happens next.

Happy birthday, Max. We love you so much.